MIDDLE AGE PUTS ON A SHOW OF COLORS
They have definitely solved the invisibility issue, these women in red hats
and purple dresses.
They dress to be seen, that being part of the goal of the Red Hat Society
-- to greet middle age with ''verve, humor and elan,'' in the words of its
founder, Sue Ellen Cooper.
The 56-year-old Fullerton artist and mother of two came up with the Red
Hats after reading the poem called ''Warning'' by British writer Jenny Joseph
that starts: ''When I am an old woman I shall wear purple/With a red hat which
doesn't go, and doesn't suit me.''
Sue Ellen gave it to a friend on her 50-something birthday along with a red
hat. Soon there were more friends and more hats and the group went out to
lunch and dubbed themselves the Red Hat Society. A story on the group ran in
Romantic Homes magazine, was picked up by a news wire service, hit the front
page of the Washington Post and word keeps spreading. Now there are 267 Red
Hat chapters in six countries.
These are women who believe in flaunting their middle age solidarity and
who say they meet just to have fun. The fun varies, depending on the chapter.
One group's tea party is another's wine tasting. But when they're together
they all display the official red and purple, a color combo that would have
made their mothers shudder.
Sue Ellen, who goes by the title of Queen Founding Mother allowing her to
wear big jeweled earrings and toss a feather boa around her neck, credits the
Internet with spreading her message in such a short time. She says the fact
that older women have hooked up online is but one example of how they're
insisting on being players in the larger world.
Up until recently she communicated by e-mail (www.redhatsociety.com). Now
she's taking her message on the road and announcing plans for the first
national convention of Red Hats next spring in Chicago.
Her first official appearance was earlier this month in Princeton, Ill., a
small town of big brick homes and old farm money near Peoria where Red Hat
regional members ruled for two days and I was invited along for the hoot. Shop
windows were full of red hats. The local media made a big deal of it. ''The
Today Show'' sent a crew from Chicago.
In slinky purple dress atop a willowy frame and Queen Mum hat on un-gray
hair, Sue Ellen reminded the women that the Red Hat Society is as much a state
of mind as place. ''This is where we play.''
Sue Ellen's goal all along has been to create a retreat for women who have
spent years working on careers, managing homes, hauling kids, volunteering for
committees. And now they're taking a time out.
Her favorite question from the media is, ''What do you do'' and her
favorite answer is ''nothing.''
Most organizers would kill for such a winning recruitment ploy, but then
they'd have to put members to work saving the world according to one agenda or
another. But this is more like an old fashioned women's club than feminist
huddle. Sue Ellen describes herself as a Christian but she's not proselytizing
nor does she want anyone else to. She talks about promoting sisterhood but
it's more about making friends than getting women elected to office.
A woman from Virginia reports she got through colon cancer surgery by
wearing a red hat with her hospital garb. There's a group of Red Hat
motorcycle riders called the Harley Harlots. In Sonoma County the chapter is
Dames of Vines and Roses. There's a nudist chapter in Florida whose members
wear a red hat and nothing else.
For now they're just getting together and doing what they can to embarrass
their grown children. An Illinois chapter stormed an Elvis impersonator show
and tossed purple panties onto the stage.
Where it all goes after a few sisterly lunches is anybody's guess. But it
won't go unnoticed.
You can e-mail Susan Swartz at sswartz@pressdemocrat.com.
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